What size space do I need for a memorial garden?

A 4-by-6-foot patch is plenty. Many of the most-visited memorial gardens are smaller, a single bench beside a tree, or a corner of a flower bed. The size of the space doesn't determine its meaning.

What plants work best?

Perennials that come back every year, peace lilies, lavender, hostas, hydrangeas, and Russian sage all work in most US climates. Avoid annuals (gone in one season) and high-maintenance plants (you don't want grief-day to also be weeding day).

How do I choose a stone?

Pick a design that matches the relationship more than the loss. A family-tree design speaks to lineage. An angel design works in any spiritual tradition. A simple inscribed name or date keeps the focus tight. The right stone is one that doesn't make you cry every time you see it, it should bring back the person, not just the absence.

Should the garden be visible or private?

Somewhere in between. A fully private spot feels punishing and gets neglected. A fully visible spot feels performative. The best memorial gardens are visible from your normal sightlines (the kitchen window, the back porch) but slightly tucked away, you have to walk to them deliberately.

Is a memorial garden for a pet appropriate?

Yes, pet memorials are one of the most common uses of garden stones. The form doesn't change much; the scale is often smaller. A single round stone with the pet's name, placed under a tree they used to lie under, lands harder than a more elaborate setup.

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